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MDR 12 – God – A Divorced Man

God and His marriage problem

Divorce DecreeI mentioned earlier that I’ve gone all the stages from unmarried, married, divorced and remarried, and the same has God. No, I’m not going to compare myself to God, but we can still compare us with parables and stories of and from God. There are many stories and parables in the Bible, where some stories may be more personal for us, all according to the situation we are in, but all the stories in the Bible are personal for God. One of it I think are the most personal stories of God is when he is forced to divorce Israel … Continue reading MDR 12 – God – A Divorced Man

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MDR 11 – About Remarriage in The Bible pt.II

Continuing from previous post

Re-Marriage I

Paul says…

I mention last time that the Jews put in the text ‘Jewish’ in their divorce documents – “You are free to marry whom Jewish man you want”. This to ensure that she was married into, and continued, in the Jewish faith. It is quite interesting to see that Paul also makes a similar addition by telling the Christian widows that they were ‘is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.’, ie a Christian man.

“A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” (1 Cor 7:39).

Although Paul did not speak to those who already was married or those who wanted to divorce, Go ahead and read more!

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MDR 10 – About Remarriage in The Bible pt.I

Re-Marriage IIWe have actually reach 9 parts of the MDR series, and the 10th is coming here. It means we have covered some ground, both of matrimonial contract and divorce. What I see we haven’t cover so much is remarriage, as we now are going to take a closer look at, what the Bible is telling us about this question. Let me first put some light on some peoples mind and thoughts of what they use to come around this questions about remarriage.  Continue reading MDR 10 – About Remarriage in The Bible pt.I

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MDR 9 – 4 Reason For Divorce

Marriage abuse IIIn a previous post I mentioned that divorce means ‘the procedure defined in the law of Moses.’ This means that there are reasons for taking out a divorce since there is a procedure for it.

Christians today accept that the Bible permits divorce for adultery, but they often believe that it does not allow divorce for other reasons such as physical or mental violence; when a man withholds money from his wife, stopping her from going out; or when a wife neglects the children and let them go dirty and hungry, keeping money back from the husband or psyching him out.

When one hears these things happen and does not find passages that literally looks at it as ‘burning child or spouse with cigarette, throw spouse down the stairs or pounding theirs head into the wall’, this has not led to other than confused and worried Christians because they conclude that God is not interested in such things; these problems do not seem to touch his heart – but why?

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MDR 8 – Till Death Us Do Part

til death do us part II
Death do us part

In MDR7 we started to undress the myth that marriage had a lifetime warranty, and we looked into 4 places in the Bible who seem to support this view; Mat.19: 6, Mat. 19: 9, Mat. 19: 5-6 and Eph. 5:32. I also said that there are two (2) passages that seem to support that only death can end marriage. These is what we are going to deal with in this post, which is slightly shorter than previous one we’ve been through in the past (a relief for some :))

This two text that seem to speak about that only death could end marriage, is taken from the Rom. 7 and 1. Cor. 7. This texts actually does not mention divorce at all, but they talk about it anyway. ??? How is it possible to talk about something that is not mentioned?  Continue reading MDR 8 – Till Death Us Do Part

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MDR 7 – Once Married, Always Married

adam_eve_loveA lifelong marriage is a great blessing and only death is the one who can end the marriage. If it was so, many would probably consider it as a blessing from God because it represents a lifetime warranty on marriage. But on the other hand, for the group of people where the partner is actually cheating and violent, this would be a life sentence in prison with the most cruel enemy, and the representative of the blessing would have been the death.

There is not everything that lasts forever or for a lifetime, and maybe that’s why marriage is so special. Imagine; some have proposed to you and said: “I love you, and only you!” and at the wedding, they say: “I love and honor you, keeping you in good and bad days till the death do us off.” It may well impossible be more affirmative that one that you love, this lifelong commitment to you. That is why it is so devastating when these promises are broken.

When people commit adultery or being cruel and / or violent, marriage starts to squabble and what happens next? Go ahead and read more!

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MDR 6 – Marriage – A Contract

marriage contract
marriage contract

We ended previous post with some questions, and true enough, there are many more questions about this topic than I can cover in MDR series. But in order to answer some of these, we must first have clarified one thing – marriage is a contract between two people.

I know there are many who dislike to connect a marriage to a contract. They tend to believe that marriage should be called a ‘covenant’, and not ‘contract’; because a contract can be broken while a covenant can not be broken, even if the covenant conditions repeatedly are been broken. It’s sort of something ‘divine’ over the word covenant, and true enough it is divine when God stand behind it, as when God makes a deal with his people. While a ‘contract’ is seen as a national agreement, a trading agreement or an agreement between an artisan and landlord – and can be broken. Why is it so? Go and read more!

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MDR 5 – Jesu’s Teaching in Mat. 19:3-12

Misinterpretting
Misinterpreting

In MDR4 we discussed the core issue Pharisees and Jesus discussed, – Hillel’s teaching about ‘any cause’-divorce. Since we now already are in Mat. 19, I really want to take some of the points and teaching Jesus do here, about marriage in their discussion.

It may be that Jesus tried to ignore the Pharisees question, and focuses on what is more important, namely the actual marriage. Whatever, He brings Pharisees question to a much wider perspective, and in that way show them God’s meaning of the marriage itself, but also point out their misinterpretation of the law(s). Continue reading MDR 5 – Jesu’s Teaching in Mat. 19:3-12

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MDR 4 – Divorce By Any Cause

I divorce you sms1In these “electronic days”, some have discovered new avenues for divorce, for example a man from Dubai who divorced from his wife through sms. In Islamic Sharia law, it is possible to be divorced by either orally or bytext saying – “I divorce you” – three times, and no other reason is needed to be given. This opportunity is only for men and not for women. This not only seems to be a simple and unfair way to divorce, but in fact is. We wouldn’t find any of this kind of simple divorce-practice in the Bible … or? Actually, we can find an equally simple practice being used and discussed in the Bible too!  Continue reading MDR 4 – Divorce By Any Cause

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MDR 1 – Stories For Reflections

MDR stands for Marriage – Divorce – Remarriage. A shortcut I choose to use on this series where I deal with many christians problems of the questions of marriage, divorce and remarriage. It also make a search easier. Make a search on MDR and read all about this topics. esglogo

For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel,

And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery. (Mal. 2:16, Mat. 19:9 NASB)

I have long time wanted to write a bit about some difficult topic – marriage, divorce and remarriage. Not only Christian and in a Biblical context, but I’m sure all may have huge benefit of this series. We don’t really find the difficult questions in the group of marriage, but for sure we find may difficult question in the group of divorce and remarriage. The topic of marriage can not be let out, because it’s where all starts. I have a big faith that we can avoid many problems even before we goes to the step of marriage by get more fully understanding what a marriage is. Yet, I have been concentrated around the topic of divorce and remarriage at first, then I will come back to the topic of marriage another time.  …go and read!